I looked at infatuation a few weeks ago, and wrote a piece about it in Danish, but I now got a good occasion to translate and rework it into English.
Infatuation can turn the world up and down for most people, both the happy, but especially the unhappy love stories.
Most people form some opinions and prejudices about other people, especially if they have lived with someone before, ie. we have formed images of the opposite sex, which are completely shaped by an intolerable old partner, or we can have some impressions from our parents marriage, what especially make strong impressions in connection with arranged marriages.
The infatuation makes us forget our opinions and prejudices, so we don’t project them on the innocent chosen one. We get the opportunity to learn to know the new person and thereby overwrite the deeply printed opinions from our previous experiences.
There is only the problem, that we may fall in love with a person who resembles the old partner without being warned by our prejudices.
In arranged marriages, the parties are missing the infatuation, so they always project their prejudices, fears and expectations on the partner. And it can be scary.
All our opinions are stored in the solar plexus, in the astral body, but the infatuation raises us up into the heart, into the soul, completely without reservation, the heart lives in the moment, enjoying the moment fully.
So living in the Now is like falling in love, what we can see in the descriptions of many saints and masters, like Rumi.
When we live in fear, anger, hatred, desire or whatever, our consciousness is in solar plexus and all the conflicts we experience become stored there, as opinions.
When we live happily, our consciousness is more in the heart, but if we are overwhelmed by anger or fear, we abruptly sink into solar plexus again and all the negativity we have collected, fill again our consciousness.
It’s what happens in the dark night of the soul, we sink deeply into the dark subconsciousness of solar plexus, and our goal is to solve these dark opinions, it’s spring cleaning, so the sun can shine down into the distant corners of our subconscious mind, and we can raise up into the heart without ever being bothered by darkness from the subconscious again.